I'm not his type, so I'm told.
I can see that. I'm a Democrat so we can't discuss politics (you know how ex-Democrats can be). I run late and am forever getting lost except when I'm with the Human Garmin. It creeps me out he knows where I am when I'm lost in downtown Sac and he's sitting in the pool in Woodland with a Scotch.
Life is entertaining. Much to my chagrin, I'm a natural straight man for his bad puns and wicked wit. We talk passionately about history and literature, play cribbage cross legged while we sing 1960s songs. Sometimes I remember both the lyrics and the name of the group, but he always does.
My dog hairs up the place, swims in the pool, licks him awake. He likes Shakespeare and I'm thinking about liking movies. We saw Executive Action on TV the other night and talked about it for the whole next day. (Sorry, not you, Batman.)
His 'carefree' yard takes an hour a day because we went hog wild with container plants that now need to be watered and tended. We talk incessantly about how they're doing, our little plants that we fuss over like children, and gripe at each other about over- or under-watering as we drag them around the yard. The man uses a 5 gallon bucket to water, for crimeny sake.
We stroll around big issues a while before coming back to decide. There's no big past drama to haul out and beat. Disagreements seem to dissolve in the hot tub along with the rest of life's stresses (but God Help You if you wash two-day-old shorts draped over the bench ...)
Needs are small, dreams are big, and time seems long and leisurely. Come to think of it, he's not my type, either.
Jul 31, 2008
Jul 21, 2008
Frequency
When I close my eyes, time floats away. Life presses down these days, responsibilities and commitments fuzzy in the gray areas where I reside. How do I answer the echo?
I know lots of things, like compromise means meeting halfway and the spirit has to be fed; like church is good and hope is great; like honoring separateness strengthens both; and life boils down to trusting someone to know your heart and do right by it.
I know lots of things, like compromise means meeting halfway and the spirit has to be fed; like church is good and hope is great; like honoring separateness strengthens both; and life boils down to trusting someone to know your heart and do right by it.
Jul 15, 2008
A Double-Yolked Egg
I work with an amazing group of people. For a multitude of reasons, we've all found our way to this place where we spend most of our time. We talk about that sometimes, how we landed here and why, but mostly we just appreciate that we did.
Each school has its own rhythm and sound as it gathers inertia to begin the new year. I find it funny that working in a similar environment led me to think the process would be similar. Hardly! There is a fluidity to tasks and roles here, a results-driven focus without speed limits or white lines. I sit in meetings with excitement - and terror - at the road ahead.
This is an academic Galapagos, where the only thing you can count on is change. The model by its nature constantly adapts and evolves with the changing needs of achievement. We do whatever it takes as long as it takes for student success.
There are long odds for a lot of our kids, who come from environments eroded by poverty, violence and academic failure. A good many don't live with their folks or family members and are several grade levels behind. They come to us not daring to believe they will achieve a high school diploma let alone go to college. But they soon discover there is no great mystique about college: it just takes their hard work, with our support and resources. College is in the cross-hairs every day and over time they empower themselves to view a world much bigger than they thought. College becomes an attainable goal.
So many changes are happening at work. There is so much to do to support and assist the school now that we have compressed jobs and responsibilities. I am disheartened by the enormous tasks, all critical, all requiring 150% effort. How will it not shove my life out of balance?
The students must feel this way at times. What gets them up every day to make it to school is the knowledge they are investing in themselves. They work hard, struggle, slip back, press forward, and we nurture and nudge them to 'Own It. Fix It. Learn from It. Thrive.' It's not easy for them, either.
So I've decided this year to let THEM motivate ME. If they can do it, so can I!
Each school has its own rhythm and sound as it gathers inertia to begin the new year. I find it funny that working in a similar environment led me to think the process would be similar. Hardly! There is a fluidity to tasks and roles here, a results-driven focus without speed limits or white lines. I sit in meetings with excitement - and terror - at the road ahead.
This is an academic Galapagos, where the only thing you can count on is change. The model by its nature constantly adapts and evolves with the changing needs of achievement. We do whatever it takes as long as it takes for student success.
There are long odds for a lot of our kids, who come from environments eroded by poverty, violence and academic failure. A good many don't live with their folks or family members and are several grade levels behind. They come to us not daring to believe they will achieve a high school diploma let alone go to college. But they soon discover there is no great mystique about college: it just takes their hard work, with our support and resources. College is in the cross-hairs every day and over time they empower themselves to view a world much bigger than they thought. College becomes an attainable goal.
So many changes are happening at work. There is so much to do to support and assist the school now that we have compressed jobs and responsibilities. I am disheartened by the enormous tasks, all critical, all requiring 150% effort. How will it not shove my life out of balance?
The students must feel this way at times. What gets them up every day to make it to school is the knowledge they are investing in themselves. They work hard, struggle, slip back, press forward, and we nurture and nudge them to 'Own It. Fix It. Learn from It. Thrive.' It's not easy for them, either.
So I've decided this year to let THEM motivate ME. If they can do it, so can I!
Jul 9, 2008
Aging
This: anonymous, sage.
Old Age, I decided, is a gift. I am now closest to the person I have always wanted to be.
Oh, not my body! Often I am taken aback by that old person that lives in my mirror but I don't agonize over it for long. I've become more kind to myself, my own friend. I don't chide myself for not making my bed or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio.
I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60's & 70's, and if I wish to weep over a lost love, I will. I am at times forgetful but some of life is just as well forgotten.
Yes my heart has been broken, but that gives us strength and understanding and compassion. I am blessed to have lived long enough to watch my hair turn gray and for laugh lines to etch into my face. I've even earned the right to be wrong.
Age has actually set me free.
Old Age, I decided, is a gift. I am now closest to the person I have always wanted to be.
Oh, not my body! Often I am taken aback by that old person that lives in my mirror but I don't agonize over it for long. I've become more kind to myself, my own friend. I don't chide myself for not making my bed or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio.
I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60's & 70's, and if I wish to weep over a lost love, I will. I am at times forgetful but some of life is just as well forgotten.
Yes my heart has been broken, but that gives us strength and understanding and compassion. I am blessed to have lived long enough to watch my hair turn gray and for laugh lines to etch into my face. I've even earned the right to be wrong.
Age has actually set me free.
Look
I had an interesting thing happen this week. A conversation with one of the girls brought up some vivid memories of my past, some 40 odd years ago, and something similar to what she is experiencing now. My eyes instantly welled up, and I was flat amazed at how modern life could be so unrecognizable and at the same time so completely unchanged.
I know it seems like a shock when big things hit our lives, like it's come out of the blue. But maybe it's more that we haven't looked hard enough to see life moving along the whole time, quickening the pace between leaves raked up in piles. How could I not notice my dog sleep more of the day as her muzzle turns gray?
What I say is what I know from where I've been, that years of trial and error, loving and losing, risking and winning train the eye to see past the glitz and twirl of life to the constancy beneath. Our feet reach for it, to anchor there and find the best of ourselves and a sense of place.
I know it seems like a shock when big things hit our lives, like it's come out of the blue. But maybe it's more that we haven't looked hard enough to see life moving along the whole time, quickening the pace between leaves raked up in piles. How could I not notice my dog sleep more of the day as her muzzle turns gray?
What I say is what I know from where I've been, that years of trial and error, loving and losing, risking and winning train the eye to see past the glitz and twirl of life to the constancy beneath. Our feet reach for it, to anchor there and find the best of ourselves and a sense of place.
Jul 7, 2008
Lava to the Sea
Last night, there we were, all squeezed into a little waiting room, working a crossword orally -- Say, does anyone know a 4 letter word for an African beast with the 3rd letter a U?
Kids were strewn around, making joyful noises as they played, adults reading and teasing one another with a childhood familiarity that was repeated on down the line. One strummed a guitar and before long everyone was humming and singing and remembering five different songs all at once.
It went on and on, this crecendo of life. No one came to scold us for being noisy in the middle of the maternity ward late on a Sunday evening. I enjoyed the ritual, the celebration. And when he arrived, our littlest guest, we crowded around the window in awe of his weight and length, joyous to be the welcoming committee for the newest person on earth.
Four generations in the room but the circle didn't feel complete. My heart was sad for those I have come to know and love. As closely as I identified with the experience, remembering the first touch of my babies, learning their scent, wondering about the magic tucked inside, I knew I wasn't the right mom. Where was the matriarch?
What came to mind was a trip a decade ago to the Kilauea volcano where it was making land from sea. It was a fiercely beautiful sight to stand on the hard, black lava that stretched its wrinkles of new land in all directions. Last night, I again experienced the sensation of utter desolation that accompanies change, wherever it's found.
Kids were strewn around, making joyful noises as they played, adults reading and teasing one another with a childhood familiarity that was repeated on down the line. One strummed a guitar and before long everyone was humming and singing and remembering five different songs all at once.
It went on and on, this crecendo of life. No one came to scold us for being noisy in the middle of the maternity ward late on a Sunday evening. I enjoyed the ritual, the celebration. And when he arrived, our littlest guest, we crowded around the window in awe of his weight and length, joyous to be the welcoming committee for the newest person on earth.
Four generations in the room but the circle didn't feel complete. My heart was sad for those I have come to know and love. As closely as I identified with the experience, remembering the first touch of my babies, learning their scent, wondering about the magic tucked inside, I knew I wasn't the right mom. Where was the matriarch?
What came to mind was a trip a decade ago to the Kilauea volcano where it was making land from sea. It was a fiercely beautiful sight to stand on the hard, black lava that stretched its wrinkles of new land in all directions. Last night, I again experienced the sensation of utter desolation that accompanies change, wherever it's found.
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